Collaborative divorce may sound strange because when you think “divorce,” you don’t usually associate it with a collaboration. In a divorce, you usually picture two angry spouses duking it out in court over child custody, alimony and division of property. However, collaborative divorce is a very real thing and it can actually result in a more satisfactory divorce.
The purpose of collaborative divorce is to resolve disputes outside of court. Obviously, this means that both spouses must be ready and willing to negotiate, but it can result in a fair and balanced dissolution agreement. Yes, it’s going to take a lot of effort by both parties, but the final result can be tailored to meet the needs of both spouses and their children.
Unlike mediation, there is no neutral third party helping with discussions. Instead, it simply involves two spouses and their attorneys, with the focus to work together and reach a settlement that benefits everyone. Each spouse gets the chance to discuss what they want and then meetings are scheduled for negotiations. Depending on how much needs to be resolved, the process can be rather quick or take a bit of time—it varies, case by case.
So why should you choose a collaborative divorce? Along with it being much more cooperative and positive than going to court, a collaborative divorce can take less time and cost less money than a traditional divorce. Going to court also leaves the judge with the ultimate decision, and with the nuances of a divorce, both parties will never really get what they both want. In a collaborate divorce, you and your spouse get to choose every single aspect of your settlement.