Child custody and financial issues are two often hotly debated topics when it comes to divorce. If a divorce is especially contentious, warring spouses in Kentucky may try to use the kids or finances as bargaining chips to get what they want. However, in the end, doing so only hurts them, their ex, and, unfortunately, the children. Therefore, it may be helpful to keep child custody issues and financial issues separate when getting a divorce. How can this be done?
One way to handle this situation is to have two mediators -- one to handle child custody matters and one to handle financial matters. A child custody mediator can help parents develop an agreement with regard to where the child will live and when. A written custody plan can also address birthdays, holidays and summer vacations, in addition to the basic day-to-day schedule of where the child will live, when and with whom.
Parents can turn to the parenting plan when there are disagreements, as it contains the expectations they have with each other when it comes to co-parenting. Of course, parents can agree to deviate from the plan from time to time if they wish. And, should the circumstances change in a way that the original parenting plan is no longer working, it can be modified.
In the end, some couples may find that by having one mediator that focuses solely on child custody issues and another mediator that handles the other divorce issues, they are able to develop a workable parenting plan that they both agree with. And in the end, if two ex-parents can cooperate when it comes to raising their child, the child will be able to grow and thrive after the divorce.